Tips to a Healthy Parenting Style
Responsible parents have at times in their parenting life dreaded that they are not good enough. These feeling of inadequacy are familiar to every responsible parent In most cases, this feeling comes when there is a glaring error in the rearing of a child. A parent’s feelings of inadequacy can also be manifested when a child is the source of trouble to others. What you should learn is that a parent that has had such beliefs is a concerned parent. It also indicates that the parent would be willing to seek help to improve his parenting skills. The guidelines in this article will help you in your quest to be a better parent.
First of all, you should always aim to devote as much time as possible to your children. It is very common in recent days for parents to spend the whole day; seven days a week at work. Some parents are likely to rationalize this by telling themselves it is for the greater good of the child. The critical parent-child moments and time are significantly cut short when parents work for long hours. In reality, children require some level of attention from their parents so their achievements can be appreciated. If the parent is unavailable, a child is likely to seek the attention elsewhere which can lead them into a bad company of friends. The driving factor for most children is to make their parents proud; this is negatively affected if parents fail to recognize their effort. As a parent you should always be on the lookout for your child’s achievements and comment to motivate positive behavior.
Thirdly, you should make it well known to your children that the love you have for them is unconditional. The number of times you say to your children how much you love them should have no limits. Some parents stop to show their appreciation to their children when they hit a certain age, mostly teenage years. It is also common for parents to express conditioned love. For example, telling them that you love them only when they behave in a certain way or achieve something. Conditional love can negatively affect the self-worth of a child leading to low self-esteem.
In conclusion, parents should consult the guidelines above to help them combat the ever-changing role of a parent.